Kind Gestures and Gift Ideas
“I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.” William Penn
Sometimes it’s the smallest things that you do for someone that make the biggest impact. This is not about giving an expensive gift, it’s about showing someone you’re thinking of them and that you care.
Rescue Remedy is a wonderfully practical item to have in times of grief and a thoughtful gift. It can give relief in cases of emotional shock, tearfulness, grief, feelings of desperation, mild anxiety and sleeplessness due to stress. All pharmacies with a natural / homeopathic section stock it. Rescue Remedy is not recommended for recovering alcoholics in the liquid form, as it contains a small element of alcohol as a preservative. In those cases the tablets are preferable.
A Living Plant
Give a beautiful plant to your grieving friend. A young tree or something more suited to their garden / living space. The grieving person can plant it and care for it in memory of the deceased. The plant can serve as a living symbol of their recovery as it grows and renews itself.
Give an empty notebook to a grieving friend, for them to write their feelings in. Best is an A4 size, with pages that are easy to tear out, e.g. with a ring binder. Personalize it with a kind note / poem / picture on the inside cover or first page.
For those who enjoy arts and crafts, putting together old photo’s in a scrap book can give a family the opportunity to get together and reminisce. Putting a scrapbook together is fun on your own or as a group effort. To inspire your creativity, type the word ‘scrapbook’ into Google to find some beautiful examples of what other people have done.
Create a Memorial on Facebook
Create a page in memory of the deceased on Facebook.
Have an Informal Gathering
Suggest a small informal gathering of people who were closest to the deceased and do something creative in honour the deceased. You can do this any time you feel ready, on the anniversary of the deceased’s death or on the deceased’s birthday when they are sorely missed or (if they were cremated) on the day you scatter the ashes.
- Meet at a nearby river with a few roses or freshly picked flowers. Let each friend take a turn saying what they miss about the deceased as they throw rose petals or a single flower into the river. Give each person a chance to give thanks for the time they had with the deceased and kindness/love/lessons that the deceased brought to their lives. Watch silently for a moment as the petals float away symbolic of the loved one’s transition from your world and the perfect continuation of nature and beauty without them.
- Organise a few helium balloons, and ask each person write a note to the deceased. Let each person tie their note to the string on their balloon, or carefully write on the balloons with a permanent marker. Release them into the sky one by one or together, giving thanks for the time you all shared with the deceased. We suggest latex balloons as they are bio-degradable, but they don’t last as long as foil, so you will either need to get balloons on the day you plan to release them, or rent a canister so the balloons are freshly filled.